Today, many Muslim families spread of “tradition” does not marry the daughters until they get a diploma of a secular education. Daughters themselves in solidarity on this issue with their parents. Study for many of them became paramount in life. Often at the expense of marriage.
Where did this “tradition” come from?
Similar ideas – it’s mostly the result of the influence of Western culture, in which the struggle for allegedly freedom of women (including the right to her education) gradually erased the understanding of the most important of its purpose. Beautiful Western slogans about the “liberation of women” blinded consciousness of many Muslims. And in many ways that’s way today's parents - Muslims believe that putting the marriage of his daughter to graduation, they will only get better for her.
A girl can lose more appropriate time for marriage, and as a result, delay the birth of a child. Of course, this is not quite correct from the point of view of female physiology (the best time for the birth of a child in medicine is considered the age of 18-24 years). Of course, you want your child was born in the normal physical conditions, but in fact achieve them is not easy, and exactly when it will happen, only God knows.
If a girl is lucky, she, after graduation, will be married. But often this does not happen, as with every year, the chances of finding the right person to decrease. Then she continues to build a career. Over the years, the desire to get married can be dropped altogether. In the end, she realizes that her youth spent in vain. After all, the simple women's happiness is, first of all, the family, and not several higher educations and good work.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “When a man comes to propose and you are pleased with his deeds and his manners; get him married. If you don’t; there shall be a lot of fitna (trials & tribulations) and a lot of corruption (evil). (At-Tirmidhi)
Marriage or education?
Creating a new family – is the preservation of chastity in society, increase our community, following the Sunnah of the Prophet (peace be upon him). Correctly setting the priorities in life, seeing what more would benefit not only in this life but in the following, a believer is, undoubtedly, will make her or his choice in favor of marriage.
However, Islam does not forbid women to receive a secular education, in fact, even welcomed it (of course, the process of education should not contradict the principles of Islam). This is good both for the woman and for her children, whose education is largely dependent on their mother.
In the history of Islam, there are many examples of how Muslim women have reached heights in various fields of knowledge. For example, the mother of believers, Aisha (radhiallahu anha) had a brilliant knowledge not only in religion but also in history and medicine.
Therefore, a Muslim girl can marry and at the same time learn.