My attitude to polygamy

My attitude to polygamy


"... marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hand possesses. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice]." (The Quran, 4:3)

My attitude to polygamy, I would call a neutral-positive. That is having a positive future development.


First of all, I can not refer to anything negative that the Almighty Allah has made lawful. If I feel aversion against anything that is relevant to the Qur'an and Sunnah, I realize that it was "an attack of the nafs".

Second, perhaps due to the absence of experience, but I've never been possessive and did not suffer jealousy. I can not say that it is a merit of my inner struggle, it just was not - that's all. On the other hand, I was always confident in my uniqueness and reciprocity in the relationship of the people with whom I associated. I jealous only in cases, when I saw that dear man begins to touch the forbidden or reprehensible. For example, I was jealous girlfriend, who somehow started to communicate with not very pious girl. And digging into myself, I understood that I am jealous, because I am afraid of her because I care about her well-being, which could be suffered.

Third, when the imagination is a situation of polygamy, I don't see it in the dark colors: rival wives, the sufferer-husband, squabbles and intrigues. On the contrary, I see a gay family, a small community where evenly distributed benefits, and responsibilities. In such a family the eternal noise, joy. It is a family, where, unlike the others, comes to the aid not one, but four people led by the husband (depending on the number of wives). This is a small family holidays. These are five djamaat prayers a day. This is triple support and love. This respect and in the end instead of one to four happy women, four girlfriends. Remember the case in Saudi Arabia, when the bride has demanded from the groom to marry also her friends. Isn't it great?

I can reluctantly admit that my views may be far from the reality in which my sisters-Muslim live. But because each can bring to life what he wants. What prevents us to be happy and share that happiness with others?

I know many people refer to the fact that the husband may not to be fair o everyone. But even if you only, you are protected against its injustice? In fact, we actually suffer the worst injustice than this. But it did not hurt so because we got used to it. If you think about polygamy has its undeniable advantages.

I do not call the sisters treat him as well as I do. I just want you to know that the attitude to him is not at all the same, and where others see the drama, others may see a good movie with a happy ending.

Probably has a role and my outlook, according to which this life - only a temporary pass. Once there, we need to think more about the next life is to seek happiness in it. Build here are some plans and hopes, that only bind me to this Dunya, I think unaffordable for myself. Probably why I'm so easy to get rid of worldly prejudices and take a positive fact that God imputes.

May Allah give happiness to every family!

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