Question: My wife and I live in perfect harmony, we have a happy marriage, we love each other, we have two beautiful sons. Now we are thinking to have another ... but I'm not entirely sure that I want a third child, and the wife is also in doubt. We did not have such question before, but now it is important for us. Is it permitted to use condoms? (Salman)
Respected Brother/Sister in Islam
Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh
It is permissible for the husband to use condoms as a means of contraception if both husband and wife are agreeable to it and their intention for practicing contraception is not because of financial reasons. For example, if they wish not to have more children due to the ill health of the wife or she fears that she will not be able to physically cope with having another child, or the doctor has advised against having more children for health reasons, it will be permissible to practice contraception in these cases.
To practice contraception for financial reasons whereby the husband and wife fear that another child will be an additional expense for them is not permissible. Allah is the provider for all and has allotted for each person their own sustenance in this world. Having more children will not affect a person’s financial status in any way. Allah says in the Qur’an:
وَمَا مِنْ دَابَّةٍ فِي الْأَرْضِ إِلَّا عَلَى اللَّهِ رِزْقُهَا وَيَعْلَمُ مُسْتَقَرَّهَا وَمُسْتَوْدَعَهَا كُلٌّ فِي كِتَابٍ مُبِينٍ
There is no creature on earth whose sustenance is not undertaken by Allah. He knows its permanent and its temporary place. Everything is in a clear book.
(Qur’an: 11: 6)
On the same subject, it should be noted that it is encouraged to have many children. The Prophet of Allah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said:
تزوجوا الودود الولود فإني مكاثر بكم الأمم
“Marry a spouse who is loving and fertile so I will be proud of the number of my Ummah” (Abu Dawood, Hadith #: 2050, Narrated by Ma’qal bin Yasar)
And Allah Knows Best.
Mufti Suhail Tarmahomed